The only constant is change

For those who are curious as to why I decided to step down from a leadership position on evthreads and evclub, and I can’t imagine who would be, I’ll now attempt to cobble together some words that might be sufficient to explain.

I’d been on the ledge for awhile now. All I needed was a little nudge to push me over the edge, and that nudge came this past week. The wheels came off the Evanescence bus, and chaos reigned supreme on the fan message boards since last Friday. I’ve grown weary of the drama; my tolerance to suffer the daft is not what it used to be.

The small windows I had into the underbelly of the music industry removed the illusions I’d created in my own mind about how the music we all love and live to hear is made. Sometimes that process isn’t appealing or nice, and it all came to a head.

When you can no longer see the goal for which you are working, it’s time to change what you’re doing – for the good of all involved. I honestly hope that Amy Lee continues to make music and that it’s appealing to me and at least some segment of the music consumer culture. I hope she and all those who are and have been around her find happiness and peace.

I’ve made some fantastic friends through this gig, and I’ve got no plans on leaving them alone or behind in any sense. They are, in fact, the touchstones that I kept coming back to in my deliberations on whether I should carry on or not.

I’ll end this post with a quote that helped me find clarity in this whole situation. Perhaps it can be of use to some of you either now or at a time uncertain in the future.

Do not depend on the hope of results. You may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you get used to this idea, you start more and more to concentrate not on the results, but on the value, the rightness, the truth of the work itself. You gradually struggle less and less for an idea and more and more for specific people. In the end, it is the reality of personal relationship that saves everything.
~ Thomas Merton

12 thoughts on “The only constant is change”

  1. Dahmalah, I may not be 1000% coherant, but no alcohol ncan deter from my knowledge that you have made *both* boards/irc’s, etc’s what they are, and i shall forever be grateufl for all the work you put into both.
    You’re a true trooper in all senses of the word.
    Yoi foreverandever

  2. It’s sad to see you leave, you made whatever board was good at the time. well, good. lol. You’ll be greatly missed and hopefully we’ll still see you post 🙂 Even if it isnt as a mod.

  3. I just wanted to say that I’m sorry I never got to talk to you and meet you. You seemed like an amazing member of Ev. community. Hopefully I’ll still get the chance to chat with you and get to know the infamous DhammaSeeker XD

    *hugs*

    See you later

    -Sara

  4. dhamma, i’m leaving you here my goodbye note:

    i think it’s probably obvious that you did a good job when someone from the other side of the world writes you to say goodbye from evthreads, you were always supportive to ev, you banned me for 2 months for making an stupid game, but now i know why, you wanted to protect amy, you were great at the boards and everything i don’t think there’ll be another “dhamma 2”

    good luck with everything

    Fabricio

  5. It’s so sad to see you leave.. You have a great quality – you make people around you happy and this is what I really adore about you! Thank you so much for everything you did to the community, I wish you to achieve all your goals, Wade.
    I’m proud that I know such a great person!
    *hugs you*

    Julia

  6. It’s nice to breathe air unburdened, isn’t it?

    My heart has never been so calmed in recent memory untll now.

    I think you’re too forgiving even still. In any event I’m happy to finally lift off the burden and throw it away forever.

    You will always have me to call upon sir. Don’t ever forget that.

  7. Hey man, you were always too good for that place. 🙂 I knew it was just a matter of time before you were cast off just like everybody else she’s ever been in contact with. 😉 Be well.

  8. Aye. As it was on the farm, hard work became it’s own reward. The rains don’t always come when needed, or stop when wanted, and don’t even get me started on the livestock.

    But if, at the end of the day, you are so famished so as to appreciate the humblest meal, and so tired that you sleep the whole night through, well, then you figure you earned that much peace and comfort, and from it gain enough strength to take on another dawn.

    I am glad you have found a new path. Farewell.

  9. I dont want to be mean but I need to say.
    Okay we all feel pressur and stuff, you can’t just give up like that and hide behind some quote. I feel more pressure, problems than you can possibly get from any website, yea I’ve fallen off the edge and hit the bottom now that I’ve left it I can live with the scars and continue to push against it all.

  10. Dear Julia: You have your truth, and I have mine. For the record, it was neither pressure nor problems with evthreads that prompted me to step down. Take the time to read between the lines and you just might see. Be well.

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