And when everybody’s tits (and butts and cocks – – – ok, maybe not too many cocks!) are there for everyone to see – well, then we start to get past obsessing on the unseen, and ironically, start to see people for who they are – not what they look like, or what they do. Its the dichotomy of living in our mixed message society that is simultaneously puritanical on the one hand – and exploitative of eroticism on the other – that creates so much dysfunction, confusion, angst and pain in people.